Why are men always interested in my eating habits?

Alicia Alcantara-Narrea
3 min readNov 27, 2020

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I swear if one more guy says to me “you’re eating, again?” I’ll ignore men completely.

This post is a simple cute vent. You have been warned.

Every time I feel comfortable with eating when my body notifies me it’s hungry some douchebag thinks it’s important that they mention I just ate two hours ago.

Yeah, asshole, people eat more than once a day. And healthy people feed themselves when they are hungry.

Let me describe these guys for you so that you might spot them better in the future and avoid them completely.

Then I’ll tell you about why I think they make these comments at all.

How the douchebag looks and acts.

The majority of men who have made these food comments to me have been men that eat like crap. I don’t mean they partake in a lot of sweets or that they live off fast food.

There’s nothing wrong with eating a variety of foods and/or sweets.

What I mean is these guys usually eat one thing at a random time of day and have somehow miraculously functioned throughout their whole day. This meal is usually grains or meat.

(Most popular choices were: bowl of cereal, a cold slice of pizza, or a cup of noodles.)

These guys usually live off energy drinks, because that’s supposedly healthier than coffee. Not to mention it makes them feel cool. They actually try out and recommend energy drinks like they try out beer.

It’s like energy drinks have become the beer of the workplace. And a measure of male coolness.

They are by society’s standards physically average or slim in weight. Between 5' 3" and 5'10" inches.

They rarely have sisters and if they do it’s usually one sister older than them.

They act nice overall but have a tendency to neg, most of the time subconsciously.

Best definition of neg I found was off urban dictionary: an active disqualification. A way to tell a woman she does not meet your standards of attractiveness.

Why do men make comments at all?

Which leads me into the reason why I think a guy might make a comment about your eating habits in the first place.

It’s his way of saying “You sure you need to be eating again? Aren’t you worried about your figure?” (On occasion it’s even more direct like ‘you shouldn’t be eating again’.)

Because not eating or eating very little is a healthy form of dieting to some men. Seems logical: severely reduce the amount of food you take in and you’ll manage your weight. And a lot of guys can pretty much do that. Which is probably why they think it works, or will work for women, or worse, that it’s healthy.

Men would rather have unhealthy obsessive attachments to money, success, cars, booze, or women.

And so when they see a woman they are sexually attracted to they feel as if they are helping them by telling them to cut back. Of course not directly but in their passively aggressive type way.

Listen, everyone’s experience is going to be different. In my case I’ve only ever had men judge what or how much I am eating. But maybe in your life it’s been only women?

I hope that in your case it isn’t worse but better. Perhaps more men should be told why these type of comments aren’t appropriate? Or maybe you think this little rant was unnecessary? Let me know.

Bye friends!

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Alicia Alcantara-Narrea
Alicia Alcantara-Narrea

Written by Alicia Alcantara-Narrea

Interested in people, then money, then things.

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